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Make Your Own Rules In Life (Who Cares What People Think)

Am I the only one that has felt the pressure of life’s “rules” and “traditions” weighing down on me? Has your family, friends, or significant others ever made you feel like you’re not on the right track in life? What is the right track in life, anyway? What is the traditional life we are all told to live? If we’re, “straying away” from the trail, are we really lost? I have so many questions about life and what we should be doing. 

I was raised to believe that there is a proper way to live and that there are rules to life. Some of these “rules” are based on religion, and some of the “rules” are simple guidelines that our family has followed traditionally. We’re supposed to stay in school, get a job, go to college, graduate, get a better job, find a partner, settle down and have children. Then, from there, is a whole other world of “how to be a wife and a parent” that gives me a headache just thinking about. Where did these guidelines come from, anyway? Who decided that there was a proper way to live your life? If you chose to skip over college, get a GED, not get married, decide children aren’t for you, why is that wrong? Why are we living in a world so afraid to break traditional values? 

I’ve felt the pressure of this lifestyle for a long time. I can see how it’s a simple guideline for some. For me, though, I have different plans. You better believe I don’t feel guilty for it, either.

If you’re happy with your life, that’s all that matters. If you dropped out of school and got a job that you love, that’s wonderful. If you decided to skip college and work your dream job, congratulations. If you would like to be in a long relationship rather than be married, I get it. If you think your career is more important than your “obligation” to be a mother, so be it. If you want to have children and a husband and be a stay at home mom, that’s your choice. If you want to travel the world, make new friends, and live a life on the road, beautiful.

Let’s stop worrying about what people chose to do with their lives. If they’re not hurting themselves or another person, understand that your view of what their lives should be does not matter. You do you and let them do them. Please, with an open mind, understand that everyone has their own destiny. Some may live a nontraditional lifestyle and that’s totally okay. Whatever religion, political party, sexual orientation, or gender you chose to live by is nobody else’s business.The feeling of freedom from judgement is one of life’s greatest achievements. Our lives are so short. Who freaking cares what you want out of life.


As long as you’re happy, healthy, and kind to others, you’re just fine.

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