Seeing Beauty Differently.
Updated: May 4, 2019
I’d like to make a proposal for 2019. May this be the year we finally love every inch of ourselves.
I used to wake up each morning and instantly start my day by hating the way I looked. I’d wince in the mirror and tear myself apart. Every flaw, every imperfection, every single inch of me, I hated. I am a compassionate, giving, and kind human being. Doesn’t that count for anything?
“I am worthy of love and joy.”
Today, dating apps such as Tinder allow us to swipe over someone’s face completely based on physical standards. It’s quite dehumanizing and shallow when you think about it. Instagram and Facebook allow us to sport our best selfies to gain “likes” and “love” which ultimately gives us a sense of security and confidence within ourselves.
Whether you’d like to admit it or not, it’s clear that we live in a society that cares way too much about our outward appearances. It’s truly heartbreaking to think about how many people are wasting their lives away wishing they were someone else. Please, for the love of god, realize that you have so much more to offer this world. For a moment, hear me when I say that the way you look has absolutely nothing to do with the way you are.
“To whom do I owe the biggest apology? No one’s been cruller than I’ve been to me.” - Alanis Morissette
There are people in this world that will love you at a size 2 or a size 12. For heavens sake, BE THE ONE who accepts YOURSELF for the way you are. Seeking validation from others is only pushing yourself further away from truly validating and loving your own self.
It does not matter what you look like. It does not matter if you’re an Instagram model or not. It does not matter what size you are. It doe not matter how many “followers” or “likes” your photos get on social media.
Put down the selfie stick and start imagining all the ways you can make an actual difference in the world. You can start by loving people correctly or praising young children for their talents and abilities. You can start empowering others by complimenting their accomplishments, work ethic, strength, intellect and personality rather than commenting on how “pretty” or “hot” they look. You can volunteer, give to charity, or support a local cause. You can help change the mindset of our generation or simply a close friend.
Remember, be kind to yourself. Love yourself as much as you have loved others. You’re absolutely beautiful no matter the “ beauty standards” society holds us to. Spend more time on your heart/mind and less time on your appearance. Be a proud example of the change you wish to see in the world.