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“Slut, Whore, and Hoe” These 3 Words Gotta Go.

Happy Friday, Ladies!  


I hope you all have a wonderful weekend. I wanted to share some of my thoughts lately regarding those three cringe-worthy words above. I, self admittedly, have used these offensive words to describe a woman I did not like or was jealous of. Why else would we call another girl these names? It’s a hard thing to admit, but I think it’s important to interrogate our negative feelings. Whenever I’m mad, annoyed, sad, etc… I ask myself “why do I truly feel this way?” Most of the time, the answer scares me. It has to do with my insecurities.


 

Have you ever found yourself judging another female? Of course you have. Have you ever thought to yourself or said out loud to a friend, “OMG she’s such a slut!”…? I know I have. (If you haven’t, congratulations for being a secure, lovely woman) Anyway, I think it’s time now we take responsibility for our harsh name calling and open our eyes as to why we’re calling other woman these things. Why does another person’s sexuality have to insult us? Or intimidate us? If it “insults” us, why? Let’s just admit it. Seeing another girl who’s dressed provocatively doesn’t necessarily mean she’s soliciting sex. Even if she is, who cares? What about when we hear a rumor that our co-workers is sleeping around? Is she a “slut” then? She enjoys sex. Religious reasons aside, (which is a whole other blog post) women can enjoy having sex. So, why do we harshly force these label upon women? They’re not hurting anyone.


   

Now, let’s say this “slut” starts sleeping with your boyfriend? Or, maybe she HAS a boyfriend? Now, I know what you’re thinking, she’s being a “hoe”… right? We’re so programmed to think like this. Can’t we just say she’s being a bad person? A bad girlfriend? Am I saying she’s right for doing this stuff? Absolutely not. Does that make her a “whore”? I think that’s the wrong word choice. How about “dishonest” “untrustworthy” or “deceitful”? Let’s try to use more accurate vocabulary in these circumstances. Every time us ladies use those three horrible words against another female, we couldn’t sound/look any more insecure about ourselves.


   

The reason I’m so against this word is because it’s used to describe woman who ultimately have sex. It’s used by either a fellow female, or by men who are shaming us for denying them sex. (Which is kinda ironic, don’t you think?) Men call women “sluts” for having sex with anyone that’s not them. Women call other women “whores” for dressing “slutty” and flirting with guys. It’s either used as a defense mechanism or as a degrading tactic. Ladies, it’s our job to stop calling other women these names. It’s also our job to stick up for other girls being name called, or tell our friends to knock it off. It starts with us, ladies.


   

Don’t you remember that famous line in mean girls? When Tina Fey says, “You guys GOT to stop calling each other sluts and whores. It just makes it okay for guys to call you sluts and whores.” She’s got an incredible point. I know it’s just a silly movie, but girl on girl hate is real. It all stems down to insecurities and jealousy. It has to do with how another girl makes you feel about yourself, hence, you decide it’s HER fault for being the way she is. Don’t let confident woman intimidate you. Don’t let another woman’s sexuality insult you. Ladies, we have to stop making it someone else’s fault for us feeling insecure.


   

That’s just my two sense on the matter. It’s something I finally came around to a year ago after listening to an anti-slut shaming podcast. Be who ever you want to be, ladies. Just be safe. If anyone makes you feel about about you, just remember, it’s not what you’re doing, it’s how you’re making them feel inside. Girls, let’s empower fellow women to be confident in who they are. Please, let’s stop worrying so much about what other girls are doing. Stop letting your insecurities make you hate another woman. Let’s just realize we’re all beautiful women and we need to have each other’s support in this crazy life.  

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