• Rachel Loechelt

You Can’t Control What People Think About You, So Don’t Let It Control You.



I’ve been listening to some life coaching every week, something I never knew that I needed. It’s calming, reassuring, and motivational. I often start the coaching with a personal issue bothering me, and end the lesson feeling like I can conquer anything life throws at me.




Listen, as much as we don’t want to believe it’s true, people in our lives can put some real bad thoughts in our heads. Only we can let those bad thoughts get the best of us. It’s absolutely easier said than done, but I actually 100% believe you can live a carefree life if you get in the right head space.



Having confidence in yourself is key. It doesn’t matter what someone says/thinks about you. At the end of the day, all that matter is what you think about you. 



Trust in your own path. Believe in yourself. Know who you are, what you want, and what you stand for. Understand that you’re a human being who makes mistakes. Be kind to yourself. Never forget that as long as you’re happy with yourself, your life, your choices, your path, that’s all that matters. 



This post is inspired by a time in my life when I was worried about the negative opinions my friend had about me. Looking back, we both had different takes on a situation that occurred between us. What I couldn’t get out of my head was how strongly I felt that I was right and they were wrong. I hated how this person viewed me and I wanted nothing more than for them to see things from my point of view. In the end, they may never.




Sometimes, you’re the bad guy in other people’s lives. Sometimes, a whole group of people will think negatively of you. Heck, maybe a lot of people do. Of course, take accountability and responsibility for your actions if there is a reason to. Maybe you made some choices you shouldn’t have. All I’m saying is, if you know deep down who you really are, if you know you’re not the villain, if you truly trust in yourself, you can’t let anyone take any part of you away. I’m talking about your wellbeing, your character, and your mental stability. No matter what, you have to believe in yourself and take care of you first. It’s so important to know who you are and stick up for yourself. Even if it’s YOU who’s attacking yourself because someone planted seeds in your brain that have consumed your thoughts about your own self.



Don’t let anyone take away the confidence you have in yourself. Take ownership for your own life. Don’t let anyone try to; label you, define you, or “figure you out” like you’re some sort of unsolved puzzle. Refrain from letting someone else put negative thoughts in your head, confuse you, or consume you. Live life on your own terms. Be open minded, but not controlled by other people’s assumptions if they are simply untrue. You’re the only one who knows you better than anyone else. Be un-apologetically you. 





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